There are so many times have had to counsel a lot of singles, younger singles who need marriage and older singles who need marriage; in reality there are common mistakes singles do that make them get so carried away in the pool of singleness; it sometimes keep them single for a longer time, even get it wrong in the choice of dating or even make them lose a potential future spouse. ALL SINGLES need this : Purpose of Singlehood.
Being in a good relationship can be so wonderful but it has got its downtime also; the moment you feel less fulfilling in that relationship then you will know that some things are holding you back. DONT MISS the article to guide you to know the HEARTBREAKER’s World.
Some singles in a relationship first enjoys the fresh moment then after some time; the interest declines gradually probably because of certain things they get carried away with. CLICK and READ what singles desire most.
Singles are needy; some are able to control themselves while some are struggling with certain attitude that causes a lot of set back in their lives; this article would help singles to know those common mistakes and how to do away with them: KNOW the 7 Easier ways to resolve issues with your partner.
- The word “LOVE” : When singles come across a new partner, they tend to be so eager to hear the word LOVE from that partner; not minding if it is coming out from their mouth genuinely; the word LOVE is good when express if it is genuine; that word is very precious and could also be deceitful; whether you are a man or a woman on this platform; it is proper that you have got a mind of your own on what love should be; people may say they love you; believe them if they say so but let them earned that romantic LOVE you desire so much that intimate love that is unconditional. I was once opportune to speak with two people who just broke up and I asked the woman are you in love with him; she said that was before then I ask the man also he made the same statement. As singles you need to realize that romantic love is quiet different from the love anyone could say they love you; even if you are not interested in the relationship; the love of Christ God commanded his children to love their neighbor as you love yourself where do we place it? When you have got issues with someone you are in a relationship with; don’t be carried away from the romantic word “LOVE’ from the LOVE that God want us to give to everyone around us.
- Sudden Fear : Fear is an enemy of its own; it does nothing but ruin a very sound minded person; as singles sometimes you have got so much fear for loss just because you have had several loss in the past, you are not on the guard but afraid of facing all the challenges you had previously in your life. The bible says in Isaiah 41:10 “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” It is high time you stop fear from taking over your mind; it is not happening yet it is just what you are thinking in your mind. Fear might then drift your mind off the reason why you met this partner from the onset. HOW to overcome Atelophobia in a relationship.
- Purposeless relationship : A single with a purpose should date another single with a purpose; a purposeful filled relationship will teach you both how to pray and achieve set out goals. it is true that some relationship just kick up when you least expect; when as a single person who wish to be in a fulfilling relationship that may lead to marriage and you find yourself in a relationship where each time you ask your partner on when would you both take the relationship to the next level it that almost causes a quarrel; it repeats itself three or more times do not ever take those moves for granted it is truly a waste of time. Don’t be found carried away in a purposeless relationship. INTERESTING ARTICLE :10 Degrading activities singles must do away with.
- Dating a player : You know very well that the person you are dating is not faithful or truthful to you; this person has been caught severally with other counterpart. Dating a player is one the most challenging part of every relationship or courtship; your level of insecurity would keep increasing until you explode one day. A player may not hide their identity of who they are or you may end of finding out that you have been played probably for a long time but it is not how long but how well which should make you not to manage a player as your partner; someone who will play you now in a relationship will play you better in marriage. 4 Signs that you are a side chick.
- Ignoring anger management : Every one have got temperament but how we make use of it is quiet different; if as a single person you find a partner who got a very bad temper without control and then end up abusing you verbally, physically, mentally or in any other form; you could help them by talking with them when they are calm if they would hear or not but take this very seriously because someone who cannot manage their anger will surely find it hard to manage themselves when some information are not even true or clear; they must have reacted and cause a lot of damages before hand.
- Sexual base relationship : As Christian singles; this is one area that the devil design for singles to lust into temptations; you need to be strong and decline every sexual base relationship before it declines you. Sex to some partners make them lose interest; they lose the trust for you, it keeps them on their toes and increases insecurity in that relationship which could lead to STIs, STDs, unwanted pregnancy and stigma. Sexual relationship is not the plan of God for every children of God; God want his children to be pure; the bible says in 1 John 2 :16 For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world. In James 1 :14 – 15 the bible further said but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. You should never get carried away by sexual sin that will surely lead to your spiritual death; keep yourself in God’s vineyard until you find the right one who will do the needful before sex sets in. USEFUL article to know the types of women we have.
- Relaxing with bad attitude : Probably there are some bad habits you have that some past relationship broke up with you because of this; it is better you start looking for ways to work on those bad habits; don’t say this new one loves you and would accept you the way you are; people have limit to what they can bear. the period you are so relax in that bad habit the more the new partner is searching for a way to escape from you. I have come across alot of bad habits and at the end of the day; those set of people claim they don’t need help. You know very well that you need help; have you spoken to any mentor or certified counselor that could help? Imagine a lavish spending partner as your partner while it is better to spend wisely; if you manage that now then in marriage be ready for downfall in certain areas when it comes to finances; don’t get carried away with bad attitude because bad attitudes chases away the good attitude. KNOW and BREAK OFF from the 20 bad habits syndrome.
- Unrealistic Expectations : Expectations are always there even when singles have not met someone yet but your expectations have to be very realistic and in line with God’s divine plan for you; I had opportunity to carry out an exercise severally with singles in a programme and it was discovered that singles actually place unrealistic expectations for the partner they are yet to meet forgetting that God’s divine purpose is different from that of man. I want singles reading this to start thinking in a new dimension; don’t let unrealistic expectations cloud your mind because it will all be like a mirage, it may never happen. ARTICLES to help you strive for a healthy relationship or marriage.
- Using finance to find love : Money they say can get you all you want; from several counsel money has never bought true love especially in challenges it fails. Some singles are with certain partners but cannot make decision for their finances themselves; their partner collects all they have and bully them just because he or she knows that the partner is so in need of love. Money should not be basis why that partner is with you. On the other hand you should also not base your mind on accepting a partner in your life just because you know they are wealthy; wealth is good but should not be a basis to pick a future partner; singles don’t be too anxious over wealth be anxious with what God has in stock for you.
- Looking unkept : Singles need to understand that there is power in attraction; I hear especially the male folks say when I met her she used to be so adoring, she dresses so well and make very cute hair; but for a while now i observed that she is careless about what she wears or her hair do even when I give her money she wouldn’t do it. it is really heart broken when you lose that attraction. You must not be expensive but you could decide to look good in any situation; don’t get carried away with looking anyhow.
Those mistakes mentioned are for singles to never be carried away what they should be working on; it is reasonable not to check what you need to rightly discard.
Quote – Someone who will play you now in a relationship will play you better in marriage. – Anne Nwakama
Quote – A single with a purpose should date another single with a purpose. – Anne Nwakama
Quote – Don’t be found carried away in a purposeless relationship. – Anne Nwakama
Quote – Dating a player is one the most challenging part of every relationship or courtship; your level of insecurity would keep increasing until you explode one day. – Anne Nwakama
Quote – it is better you start looking for ways to work on those bad habits; don’t say this new one loves you and would accept you the way you are; people have limit to what they can bear. – Anne Nwakama
Quote – don’t get carried away with bad attitude because bad attitudes chases away the good attitude. – Anne Nwakama
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